Unconventional Man (Interview with the Daily Monitor)

On March 5th 2016, I was privileged to have an interview with Esther Oluka in the Sunday Monitor about my Life and the decisions I have made. You can read it HERE or below.

Onyait Odeke is a man who wears many hats. The Acting EIC at Dignited, a Tech website based in Uganda spoke to Esther Oluka about love, life and his various professions.

Who is Onyait Odeke?

I am a lawyer, professional marketer, photographer and entrepreneur. I have a degree in law from Uganda Christian University (UCU) which I attained in 2010 as well as a professional certificate in Marketing from the Chartered Institute of Marketing (CIM) which I received in 2015. I am also a lifelong learner. I attempt to learn something new in multiple fields every day. I learn a lot from the internet, my environment or nature and lately from my 2 year old daughter, Genesis.

You don’t have a Christian name?

I do not use it anymore

How did you end up in photography and yet you studied law?

I have always been passionate about photography. As luck would have it, I got the  opportunity to learn and practice my craft and I did not hesitate for a second. For a period of about 10 years I took up photography as a side project driven more by passion than as a possible future career direction. Sooner than later though, my friends started asking me to cover small events including birthdays and graduation parties. The more I shot, the more I expanded my knowledge on photography. Eventually I became an amateur photographer and now I am professional. I have a couple of photography awards tucked under my belt and a growing list of clients eager to book my services. I will soon venture into a full time photography career.

Will you apply the knowledge you acquired from law sometime in the future?

Law school was a foundation for the sort of person I am today and I do apply my legal knowledge in everyday situations. There is a misconception that everyone who studies law has to go to court but that isn’t true. A law degree can be a springboard to boundless opportunities. We all cannot fit in courthouse. That said, I cannot rule out never going to a courtroom

How old is Odeke?

l will be making 29 this year.

I have occasionally seen you at public events with shaggy hair. Do you intentionally leave it unkempt?

Guilty as charged. It is deliberate. Many people think I forgot to comb but they have no idea I have to dip into my pocket to keep my hair the way it is. I want it that way. I am not one for being conventional. I always love challenging the status quo. People can’t help but  judge based on physical appearance as opposed to substance. You know, in the short time I have lived on earth, I have found great wisdom from the most unlikely of people and places. I try not to judge by what I see at first sight.

Do people ever take you seriously with that kind of look?

At first it they used not to but when it became my identity, people began to accept me for who I was. At times I take longer at security checkpoints because they frisk me more thoroughly than others. Ironically, there’s this one time I went to a business meeting after I had trimmed my hair short and a lady at security  asked why I had cut it off: “I loved it better the other way” she said.

I am not my hair. I can wear it shaggy, I can wear it kempt and I can go bald all of which I have done. I would rather be taken for what I can offer and not how my hair looks.

Are you in a relationship?

I am happily married to the love of my life. Jenny and I met a few years back at Garden City and we went out on a few dates after which I was utterly convinced that she was the One. She is my polar opposite and I guess the rules of physics don’t lie – unlike poles attract. As my opposite we perfectly compliment each other. I am an introvert (I prefer solitude) while she is an extrovert (friendly and social). Jenny is the mother to my daughter who I mentioned earlier.

Speaking of daughter, what things have you learnt about parenting from her?

I struggled a lot being a first-time father. In the last two years, I have learnt hard lessons about parenting that have given me a new appreciation for my own parents. The biggest lesson of all, I would have to say, is the realisation that 99% of parenting boils down to being present during your child’s upbringing. The other 1% pales in comparison.

In terms of life in general, do you have any regrets so far?

That’s a hard one. I look at things differently. I prefer not to have regrets. Regrets hold you in a loop. You keep thinking, “What if this had gone like this” or “If only I had done that” and that is not good for progress in your life. I always try to make the best of what I have rather than regret about what I could have had.

How does Odeke usually resolve conflict?

Conflict is rarely resolved without proper channels of communication. You need to put yourself in the other party’s shoes and endeavour to understand why they did what they did. Next thing after that is to let them know how their actions have affected you as well. When it fails there are always alternative means to resolve conflict.  

Which women inspire you?

My mother. She is an embodiment of a great African Mother. I would like to believe that I take after her in some aspects. My dear wife; loud and quirky as she is, greatly inspires me too. She is everything I asked God for. I wouldn’t ask for anything more. Lastly my daughter. She is very strong willed, independent and clearly knows what she wants. I want to be like her when I grow older.

In case you bumped into former presidential candidate, Elton John Mabirizi, what would you tell him?

Hmmm… I would say, “Hey Mabreezy! How about we do a standup comedy show and split the profits?

What things do people do that you consider weird?

I often find it weird that people don’t take the time to carefully think through the decisions they make in life.  I am also often a victim to this folly and that is why I tend to spend a lot of my time thinking about challenges and how I might be able to solve them.

What kind of people do you detest?

I detest a man/woman with NO conscience, NO character:  A man you cannot trust, A man whose word means nothing to them.

Your worst habit is…

I am often lazy; some people would look at it as being a perfectionist. I tend to take my time to do things and do them well. Unfortunately the world doesn’t operate on my time so I am learning to do things a bit faster.

What would you consider as the turning point in your life?

When my father died in 1996. Nothing was ever the same. As terrible as it was, it has contributed to who I am today.  Suffering; uncomfortable and inconvenient circumstances have a way of bringing out the best in human beings. It helps keep us in check.

What motivates you in life?

Life itself. The pursuit of purpose and happiness.

What’s the most unforgettable piece of advice someone has ever told you?

While not personally directed at me, the most unforgettable advice I have come across is “Never give up what you want the most for what you want now.” This guides me every day and helps me keep focused on what matters the most.

Interview in the Sunday Monitor Here: http://www.monitor.co.ug/Magazines/Full-Woman/An-unconventional-man/-/689842/3103028/-/item/1/-/122qu7t/-/index.html



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